If These Bones Could Talk: The Stories Human Skeletons Can Tell

By ELISSA NADWORNY

There’s an open box of skulls on the floor. A table is covered with pelvis bones. Nearby: a pile of ribs, tied up with a piece of string.

I’m standing in a basement room, underneath the bleachers of the football stadium at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Looking at floor-to-ceiling shelves filled with cardboard boxes. More than a thousand boxes, and each one contains a human skeleton.

“Pick a box. Any box,” says Dr. Dawnie Steadman, the director of the school’s forensic anthropology program. “What’s your pleasure?”

I scan the rows of boxes. I’m thinking I should pick a female. And so I settle on a box five rows up, just above my head, labeled “Female 57.”

Steadman places it on a table and starts to unpack it. Inside, the bones are tannish brown, not the bleached white I imagined.

She knows how to read these bones, and this one tells a story right away. “So this individual needed to have an autopsy after death,” Steadman explains, “and now I know why.”

She picks up a piece of the skull and points to a place just above the left eye.

I see it: a perfectly rounded hole.

“What we see here,” she says, “is a gunshot wound.”

Allysha Winburn, a Ph.D. student from Florida, came to the Bass Collection to study age estimation, osteoarthritis and obesity.
Allysha Winburn, a Ph.D. student from Florida, came to the Bass Collection to study age estimation, osteoarthritis and obesity.

This moment is why people come from all over the world to study these bones. Female 57 is just one of the 1,200 skeletons here, part of what’s called the Bass Donated Skeletal Collection.

Anthropologists, detectives, demographers — they all come here to learn how to read these bones: How old was this person? Was it a man or a woman? How did they die?

What they learn here can help them identify a missing person, crack an old murder case … or understand how obesity relates to osteoarthritis.

Steadman heads deeper into the stacks.

“There’s no more than one person in each box,” she says, counting off the ages as we walk by: 45, 49, 42. There’s at least one person who lived past 100.

So, how did these bones get here? While they’re still alive, people can sign up to donate their remains to the UT’s body-donation program. When they die, their bodies are sent here to the university.

Contemporary skeletons show researchers the side effects of modern medicine, like a hip replacement.
Contemporary skeletons show researchers the side effects of modern medicine, like a hip replacement.

But before they become skeletons in a box, they have another stop to make: a special fenced-in field across campus. There, the corpses are laid out on the ground and students study them as they decompose. When all that’s left is the skeleton, students clean the bones and send them here.

The donors “give us all sorts of information about themselves,” says Steadman. “They tell us their age, sex … ancestry.”

Everything but their name. To visitors — like me — the bones remain anonymous.

Not Just Old Bones

Because these bones belonged to people who died in the last 35 years, many skeletons bear the marks — and products — of modern medicine.

“Here’s another prosthetic that we commonly see,” says Steadman, pointing to an box open on the floor.

I look closer, and something shiny catches my eye. It’s on the end of a leg bone.

“It’s the ball of the ball and socket joint. They remove that and they replace it with a really nice stainless steel, metal head,” Steadman says. “That’s a hip replacement.”

The collection holds more than 1,200 donated human skeletons.
The collection holds more than 1,200 donated human skeletons.

Pelvises, skulls, vertebrae! Its all so cool. But I can’t stop thinking about Female 57, that first skull with the bullet hole. We head back to her box, still open on the table.

“I can’t believe you pulled out that gunshot wound,” Steadman says, laughing.

She rolls the large piece of the skull over in her hands, looking for more clues.

“This looks to me like it could be either a contact entrance wound or exit wound. I’ll have to keep looking,” she says, sifting through the other bones.

We learn more about this 57-year-old woman. She has a bifurcated rib — meaning she was born with two of her ribs are stuck together. She was about 5 feet 7 — a little taller than I am. I’m dying to know what happened to this woman. Who shot her? Was it a suicide?

But Steadman stops me.

“I’m not gonna say much more because of this … it now may become somewhat identifying.” She trails off.

I get it. We have to protect this women’s identity, and we’re about to learn too many details.

So we pack up the bones. Steadman returns them to the shelf, tucked between a male, 35, and a female, 81.

These bones, they’re silent teachers.

Steadman agrees: “You can absolutely learn something from every single skeleton.”

And here they’ll rest, waiting for the next set of curious hands.

Complete Article HERE!

What Really Matters at the End of Life?

What Really Matters at the End of Life?

Dr. BJ Miller, a palliative care doctor and Executive Director of San Francisco’s Zen Hospice Project, shares insights about end-of-life care in the recent TED Talk “What Really Matters at the End of Life.” Beyond his medical training, Dr. Miller’s unique perspective was shaped by a tragic near-death accident that took his feet and arm, but left him with an understanding of suffering and a deep desire to provide a new approach to the way our society cares for the dying. Here are a few things we learned:

Priorities change at the end of life.

“We know from research what’s most important to people closer to death: comfort. Feeling unburdened, and unburdening to those they love.

Over Zen Hospice’s nearly 30 years, we’ve learned from our residents in subtle detail [that] little things aren’t so little. Take [a resident named] Jeanette – she finds it harder to breath one day to the next due to ALS. Well guess what, she wants to start smoking again… not out of some self-destructive bent, but to feel her lungs filled while she has them. Priorities change.”

Don’t numb the senses, indulge them.Dr. BJ Miller

“Seriously, with all the heavy-duty stuff happening under our roof, one of the tried and true interventions we know of, is to bake cookies.  As long as we have our senses – even just one – we have at least the possibility of accessing what makes us feel human, connected. Imagine the ripples of this notion for the millions of people living and dying with dementia.”

Death can give more meaning to moments in life.

“There’s always a shock of beauty and meaning to be found in what life we have left. If we generate and love such moments ferociously, maybe we can learn to live well not in spite of death, but because of it.”

This is only a sampling of the wisdom shared in Dr. Miller’s 19-minute talk. Click here to view the full video.
Complete Article HERE!

California Assembly approves right-to-die legislation

Debbie Ziegler
Debbie Ziegler holds a photo of her daughter — Brittany Maynard, the California woman with brain cancer who moved to Oregon to legally end her life last fall — during a news conference to announce the reintroduction of right-to-die legislation in August.

Jealous Love

Beautiful music video about…well, you’ll see.

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The latest video from Seattle singer-songwriter Noah Gundersen is a relentless attack on the tear ducts. If its visuals, directed gorgeously by Ryan Booth, don’t make you cry, Gundersen’s plaintive voice and aching lyrics might. This track, “Jealous Love,” is self-explanatory in the best ways a folk song can be. It’s got an immediate emotional accessibility reminiscent of The Swell Season — Gundersen’s credibility and sincerity are unshakable from the first note. And that’s just the song.

The video would seem manipulative in its use of heartbreaking imagery, if it didn’t also feel deeply true. Gundersen’s lyrics are perfectly embodied by the (remarkable) actors performing over them — the lead, Ted Johnson, plays a man who has, in the twilight of his life, lost exactly the kind of love Gundersen sings of wanting for himself. “Jealous Love” takes repeat viewings, if your heart can handle it, in order to appreciate how intricately bound Gundersen’s performance is to the actors’. Does the voice singing belong to the young version of the old man onscreen? Or is it perhaps the man’s adult son (played by Marc Menchaca), who knows what he hopes for because he’s seen it lived in front of him? It could be either, and it could be both. From any direction, this song and video are a (devastating) triumph.

 

Join Me on The Death Chicks Crowdcast Show

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09/10/15, Noon Pacific and 3pm Eastern

(Does that make me a death dude?  I’ll have to ask them.)

 
 
Who here is an expert in ACTUALLY dying???

Have you done it?

To achieve expert status, one usually has to be proficient in something or have done something over and over again.  Hmmm… kind of tough with the death thing”, eh?.  Even those who have had near death experiences are still amateurs in a way– because they’re back!  They didn’t do it right the first time! 😉

This is why we LOVE the title of this book and the work that Richard Wagner, PhD has been doing for the last 30 years.  Since we are all amateurs at “the death thing”, there is actually a road map for those who are dying and will be dying.  Is that you?

ABOUT OUR GUEST
Richard Wagner, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist/sex therapist in private practice in Seattle, WA, 1981 to present.  He has AGDD_front coverover 30 years of experience working with terminally ill, chronically ill, elder, and dying people in hospital, hospice, and home settings.  He facilitates support groups for care-providers as well as healing and helping professionals.  He provides grief counseling for survivors both individually and in groups settings. He is the Founder of PARADIGM/Enhancing Life Near Death, a cutting edge, health related nonprofit organization.

Dr. Wagner was awarded the prestigious University of California, San Francisco Chancellor’s Award for Public Service in 1999 for this very work.

He is also the author of Longfellow And The Deep Hidden Woods, a critically acclaimed children’s book that touches upon the topics of death and bereavement.

Dr. Wagner was born in Chicago and grew up in Niles, Illinois, a Northwest suburb. He left home to attend the seminary after high school and graduated from Oblate College in Washington, DC in 1972. He moved to Oakland, California in 1972 and studied at The Jesuit School of Theology (part of the Graduate Theological Union) in Berkeley.  He was ordained as a priest in November, 1975 and obtained his Ph.D. in 1981. Dr. Wagner lived in Oakland until 1978 and moved to San Francisco until 1999.  He then relocated to Seattle, Washington where he lives today.

Richard can be reached at https://theamateursguide.com

ABOUT YOUR HOSTS
+The Death Chicks   show was created to shine light on the tabooed topics of death, dying, grief, and loss.  We’re listening to all perspectives and having the conversations that we as human beings who live and die on this earth, need to have, without fear of judgement.

+Patty Burgess Brecht   is the President of Possibility for Doing Death Differently and Teaching Transitions.  She is an End-of-Life Educator and Certified Grief Recovery Specialist.  She is the developer of the End of Life Specialist Training and Certification (CEOLS), and teaches individuals and organizations how to Do Death Differently by not being overwhelmed or afraid of death, but to seek and experience the joy, the passion, and the even the exhilaration inherent in the honor of BEing with the dying.  Her video-based, online, inspiring course is used in hospices, hospitals, home care, colleges and universities across the country and is now open to individuals who are drawn to this work.

www.doingdeathdifferently.com – for Individuals
www.teachingtransitions.com – Hospices and Colleges/Universities

+Myste Lyn  is an Empowerment Coach who specializes in supporting women recovering from loss.  Myste is an intuitive healer who reconnects women with their inner place of peace.  She specializes in reducing fears, alleviating guilt, and creating inner confidence.  http://www.bittersweetblessing.com/

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As we like to say NO ONE is getting out of this gig alive!   So we may as well talk about, learn about it, plan for it, lean into it, and feel comfortable with it when it is our time or the time of our loved ones.

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  • who is burdened by very heavy feelings, and could use some help re-entering life after a death?

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You never know when a suggestion out of the blue from YOU, can give another a reason to go on.  This could make a true difference for another. And there are people, only a mouse click away to with whom to connect and share.

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The Amateurs Guide to Death and Dying: A Truly Aventurous Way to Explore Your Mortality

 

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Life is but a Dream – 09/07/15

What does “life is but a dream” mean?

Sometimes when something unbelievable happens, it’s so outrageous (usually in a good way) that it seems like you’re in a dream.

Life is what you make of it. So if you dare to dream, envision what you want it to be – it becomes your reality. It goes right along with the saying “You can be anything you want to be…”

In dreams anything is possible, impossible becomes possible. In life there are limitations with unseen forces that work along with our motives to confuse us more on the path to fulfillment. Life is but a dream – nothing is so easy as to dream it and make it happen right that moment without obstacles standing in way.