Interest in The Amateur’s Guide To Death and Dying is coming in from all corners. Even from what would appear, at first glance, as unlikely sources of interest. Take for example my good friend, Kay Jaybee. She is an award-winning author of sizzlin’ erotica who lives in the UK. She and I have know each other since September 2008 when, together, we inagurated The Erotic Mind podcast series over at Dr Dick’s Sex Advice.
Kay and I don’t often get a chance to connect, our schedules and the eight-hour time difference between us often prohibits that. But when we do chat it’s like old home week. Some weeks ago we visited with one another on Skype. I was telling her about the difficulties I was facing trying to get the word out about The Amateur’s Guide. Being an author herself she understood.
Kay asked me if I would be interested in writing a guest post for her site. I jumped for the opportunity.
Of special interest to Kay’s audience, and also my favorite, is Chapter 6 of my book, titled, Don’t Stop. I collaborated with my dear friend, the internationally known sex educator and therapist, Dr. Cheryl Cohen Greene on this chapter about sexuality and intimacy.
We begin by posing 5 simple questions to help our readers focus their attention on their sexuality and intimacy needs.
1. How important is sexuality in your life?
2. Is there’s a difference between sexuality and intimacy?
3. Do you have a range of options in which to experience your sexuality? If yes, what are some of them?
4. How well are you able to communicate your needs for sex and/or intimacy to your partner(s)? Are there any specific issues that get in the way of asking for what you need?
5. What are your biggest concerns about your sexuality as it relates to your disease, aging and/or dying process?
Cheryl sums up the reason for incorporating this chapter in the book.
“Sexuality and intimacy are important topics for us to consider, because there is so little information out there about these things for elders and those of us who have life-threatening conditions. The assumption, I suppose, is that sick, aging and dying people don’t have sexual and intimacy concerns, so why even bring it up?
That ridiculous assumption is so prevalent, even among healing and helping professions, that I’m forever having to confront it with, ‘Hey, we’re not dead yet.’”
Kay published my guest posting this morning.
I invite you to take a look at the full post. I think you will agree things have got to change.
Click on Kay’s banner below to see the posting.